Despite this, she somehow continually found something wrong. It was draining. Worrying about money as she complained about a designer dress not being in her size. When a friend becomes annoying — they might also become unhealthy. Back to the old friend I mentioned earlier, I eventually chose to end contact when I noticed her annoying traits were in fact toxic.
She started to hang out with me only when she needed something. Her conversation grew tiring; she no longer seemed like someone to rely on. Publication Insider note that toxic friends can affect your emotional health as well as physical.
We should make friendship breakups a thing. Like how in relationships, we find ways to separate. Someone who held your hand through your first real heartbreak. My friendships the good and bad have meant everything. I shared as much on a post about why we let friends go. They got me through countless ups and downs. Another reason we can hold on when a friend becomes annoying — we can feel like their lifeline. Have you changed or outgrown your friend? Try to think about what you'd like your friendship to look like.
Is it currently up to your standards? Spend time together in a group. Instead of spending time alone with your friend, only see them when other people are around. This can create a buffer between the two of you. You will not have to talk to your friend as much.
If your friend starts being annoying, you will still have other people you can talk to. Make sure that other people are around when you hang out with your annoying friend. For example, make plans with some other friends and then invite the annoying friend to come along or eat lunch with a group of people instead of just you and your friend. If your friend invites you to go somewhere and you know it will only be the two of you, decline the offer or ask if you can bring someone else along.
Limit the amount of contact you have. If you want to maintain the friendship, you can create some space between the two of you. This will give you a break from the person and send a signal to the person to change their behavior.
Only answer when you feel like it or really want to talk to them. This way you can keep the conversation short. For example, you could call and say, "Hey, I saw your missed call.
I'm about to eat dinner with my family, what's up? Ignore the person when they annoy you. Your friend may be engaging in certain behaviors because they enjoy the response and attention you give. Your friend may say negative things or complain a lot to get sympathy and attention from you.
Your friend may make fun of other people to get laughs. By responding, you may actually be encouraging the annoying behavior. For example, if your friend is always making fun of others to get laughs, stop laughing and do not respond at all when they make a comment.
If other friends have noticed the annoying behaviors, all of you should stop responding. When you ignore the person, do not roll your eyes or make a face. You may also hurt your friend's feelings if you are rude. Encourage your friend to have other interests.
If you have a clingy friend, encourage them to try a new hobby or spend time with other people. This will take some of the pressure of off you. Your friend will be less annoying to you when you spend time together. You can also suggest specific activities for your friend to do.
Choose activities that your friend is interested in, but you are not interested in. For example, if your friend likes to draw but you do not, find an art class or art exhibit and tell your friend about it. Method 2. Tell your friend how you feel. Your friend may be doing something that you find annoying, but have no idea that it gets on your nerves.
Your friend probably cares about you and does not want to annoy you. However, your friend won't be able to stop if you do not tell them. For example, your friend may joke with you a lot and it hurts your feelings. However, your friend thinks that it is all in good fun. Simply tell your friend, "Hey, it kind of hurts my feelings when you pick at me like that. Could you stop doing it so much? Write down or practice what you will say.
Focus on how their behavior makes you feel instead of presenting your opinion as the ultimate truth. Listen to your friend's point of view. Once you tell your friend how you feel, it is important that you allow your friend to respond and to listen to them. Your friend may explain their behavior and why they have been acting a certain way. Ask your friend why have they been engaging in annoying behavior. Your friend could also have a negative response and be unwilling to change.
If your friend is unwilling to change, you might need to change the nature of your friendship permanently. Maybe you will not talk about certain topics with this friend from now on. Your friend could just be going through an annoying phase or be having some personal issues. For example, your friend could be trying to get more attention from you because they are having some family problems at home. It is important that you listen to the other person to get to the root of the problem.
Come up with a solution together. You may be able to help your friend with their annoying behavior. Tell your friend that you really value their friendship, but you two need to make some changes so you can stay friends.
The solution is more likely to work if both of you contribute. You do not want your friend to feel like you are being bossy or critical of them. For example, if your friend needs to stop gossiping, tell your friend that you will remind them to stop when you see them gossiping.
You could even create a little hand signal to do when the two of you are around other people. This way you can tell your friend to stop without embarrassing them. If your friend is annoying because they are constantly complaining about something, volunteer to help your friend improve in that area.
Give your friend time to change. I went through a period several years ago where I was having to relearn how to be a friend. It was actually kind of weird and awkward.
I always considered myself a person who makes friends easily. I had a lot of friends in high school, in college, and at work. Unfortunately though, due to seasons in life, transitions, and seasons of friendships, there was a period where I found myself with fewer close friends than I used to have.
I just assumed making close friends would be easy, a piece of cake. It takes work. I had to be a lot more intentional and purposeful about it. Something I learned was that I had to put myself out there and step outside of my comfort zone a lot.
I had to place myself in settings where making and cultivating friendships was possible. They were annoying! Who wants an annoying friend? Therefore, I would immediately write a lot of people off…. Annoying friend alert!! She talks too much buzzer sound again. She talks like an immature teenager another buzzer sound. I could go on and on about why I decided someone would be an annoying friend. The thing is, it seemed like anyone I met somehow got on my nerves.
I was the common denominator here. Was I being too picky and lacking grace? Even I can be an annoying friend at times. My first impressions of her were that we would NOT get along, at all.
However, the more I got to know her, the more I grew to like and love her. Now, I simply cannot imagine my life without her. She has been one of the most amazing friends a person could ever ask for. Quite honestly, she is a gift from God in my life…and I almost missed it. That memory made me reconsider some of the people I had started writing off.
Well that AND another friend of mine gently nudged me to give some of the people another chance.
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